The middle child
The hardest part of having three kids (or multiple kids, for that matter) isn't so much trying to wrangle them. I think, so far, it may be trying to give them all the attention that they deserve.The one who's probably been affected the most is -- no surprise -- Norah, the middle child. Ever since I've come home from the hospital, I've been limited in my ability to carry and hold her the way she's used to. She gets in those clingy modes where all she'll want is for mommy to carry her and spoil her. But that first week home was a little rough and I didn't want to overextend myself. The few times I did a bit, I dearly paid for them with achiness all over and a noncooperative, super-hurting uterus.
So after a week and a half or so, Norah finally got the point and almost totally stopped asking to be carried. Instead (and this breaks my heart), she's become a bit detached from me and has grown more attached to her daddy. She's started appealing to him for almost everything. Maybe because she's caught on like Ella and knows that she can always get her way with him. Maybe because she knows that mommy is too busy with Ian or that mommy simply can't carry her. Maybe a combination of all of this. I don't know.
All I do know is that I feel for my Norah and will try my hardest to not let her experience the dreaded middle child syndrome.
posted by Nhia @ 6:16 AM
2 Comments:
Strength and courage to you and Chubbs. I know how it feels to be a middle child but I also know that you're way the heck better parents than mom and dad! I think you'll be OK. Don't worry about her going to daddy for attention- he's a great dad and it's perfectly OK for him to spoil her.
That's a really nice picture of Chubbs- you should take a picture of her "pla milk"- her tummy gets so round after she's had her milk! HA HA HA!
Awww, poor Norah! It's okay that daddy gives her some attention, too. My girls were mommy's girls and sometimes when dad tried to hold their hands, they wouldn't let him. He'd be so hurt. I remember Sarah being annoyed on some occasions, that I had to pay attention to the baby, and she had to share me.
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